FINAL YEAR SCREENING EXERCISE

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Is Love Worth Fighting For?

Love is what makes anything worth fighting for.

If Love is not in the equation then
forget the battle. It is a waste of
time.

Love is the reason to live or die.
Sacrificing for another is what has
made all the positive difference in
the world. Giving your best effort to figure problems out and to make dreams real, standing up for the weak, setting a good example of bravery and trust in the Good,
thinking of others and the future
more than mere comfort today–
these are gifts humans can give each other.

If you are talking about a
relationship, it comes down to Love as well. Even though we are imperfect, fighting for the Love we share is still valid.

Love is an action as well as a feeling. It means acting unselfishly for another’s best interest and the best interest of the relationship. It means defending both against who and/or whatever would destroy it. It is digging deep, even during times of doubt, to be true to a worthy partner. It is clarifying that the relationship is a priority.

If you don’t fight, what are you left with? Physical fighting may not be what is required or recommended but there
needs to be one’s best effort shown to give meaning to one’s vow of loyalty.

Top Things To Know Before Proposing a Person

Love is the most beautiful thing to happen to anyone. It is a carefree feeling. A person does not even realize how and when he has fallen head over heels for someone. Every person maintains the fact that love just happens. It is never planned and can never be planned. It has been seen that people had set for themselves a perfect ideal but fell in love with a completely different person. Love therefore does not determine anything and it just develops for someone you spend time with. But what after love? Real complications arise after you are with your partner and are now planning to take your relation one step ahead. Yes I am talking about that moment when you plan to propose your partner to spend the life with you. It is definitely not as easy as falling in love and dating. Spending your life together needs a lot of consideration. When it comes to marriage you not only have to think about the two of you but also about your families. Therefore before you propose your partner it is very important to focus on certain things. Do not rush in your decision to propose to your partner. Here are the 10 most important things that you must know about your partner before proposing

Current status

This is the most important thing to know. How is your partner today? May be she or he has had a bad past but how they are today is what you must value. For girls they need to know about the guy’s work profile before taking any step ahead in the relation. This also plays a very important role in influencing the girl’s family. The girl’s present views on relations and her willingness to change is what a guy seeks. Get to know entirely about the present status with respect to finances, emotions, career, families etc. Stability in the present is ideal for giving commitment in a relation.

Religion

Another very important thing to know before deciding to propose your partner. Religion is a very important criterion that decides the success of your relation. All over the world inter caste relations do not have a great success record. In an Indian society this is the most important criteria. Not only the religion but the caste and sub castes too matter a lot in making the families accept your partner. Get to know about your partner’s religious views. How dedicated he or he is and how willing his or her family is for another caste person. If your partner is from other religion then which one of you is ready to compromise? Get these things clear before proposing.

Family

It is not just the adaptability of your partner that requires consideration. The family status too plays a very important role. Many times it happens in a relation that one of the two is from the higher strata. Sounds cliché but these things play a very important role in influencing the respective families. Also if you’re proposing you partner and if she is from a well to do family with highly refined tastes and standards then the chances are that you will be turned down. If she does not then her family surely will. So before you propose your loved one get to know about his or her family and how flexible they are when it comes to their child’s life partner

Expectations

We all expect different things from life. Some want peace while some want luxury. Some want family while some want friends. What is your partner’s expectations from life and moreover from you? Some people expect their women not to work after marriage. If your woman is ambitious then your expectation will never be fulfilled. Some women do not wish to live with the in laws after marriage. Can you fulfill this is what you need to decide.Some expect a luxurious life and often rely on their partner for this. Can you keep up with this expectation? You need to know their plans for life before you decide to make them a permanent part of your family
The above were some broad factors that you must know about before deciding on proposing your partner. A little compromise on the above terms is often allowed and does not create much of a problem. But the following five things are very important and any deviation from these often leads in termination of the relation. So be very sure with regards to these and then decide to propose your partner.

Ambition

This needs to be given due consideration before planning to propose your loved one. It is a very common scenario these days that the people are very ambitious. In order to keep pace with the fast life people have become very career oriented. Is your partner one of them? If yes then you have a big problem here. Career oriented people always tend to give family life second or no priority. The term commitment is enough to drive them away as they take it as a hurdle in their dreams. If your partner is after fulfilling his or her dreams then may be your proposal will simply make him or her move on without you. Get to know about your partner’s career plans before chalking out a proposal.

Loyalty and plans after marriage and should be given due consideration.

The Ideal Librarian

In order to make his
work a success, a
librarian must have
certain well-defined
qualities. He must have
not only a college
education and college
training, but must be
open to every form of
knowledge. “A little
Latin and less Greek”
are very well in their
way, but he should be
able also to read
German, French, Italian,
Spanish, Portuguese,
Norwegian, Danish,
Bohemian, and Russian;
a smattering of Hebrew
and Sanskrit would not
be a miss, while a
bowing acquaintance
with cuneiforms would
add still further to his
usefulness.

Above all things, he
should know books-
from a bibliographical
as well as a literary
standpoint. He should
know the publication
date of every book, and
how many editions it
has passed through, the
price when published,
and its present value;
he should be able to
give personal details
about the author, and
about every man,
woman, and child
mentioned in the book.

An ideal librarian should
have a thorough
knowledge of history, of
all the sciences and all
the arts, fine and useful,
and should be able in
an instant to suggest a
reading list on any
subject. An ideal
librarian ought to be
familiar with all
branches of library
economy, and to be in
touch with the latest
library appliances.
Cutter’s rules should be
at his fingers’ ends, and
Cutter’s, Dewey’s, and
every other system of
classification be as
simple as the alphabet
to him.

Then he should “read,
read, read” all the
books, all the
magazines, all the
newspapers. Above all,
he should read the
Library Journal from
cover to cover, not
stopping at the
advertisements. He
should be ready at all
times to attend to the
wants of anyone
entering his office, and,
like Justin Winsor, stop
in the midst of writing a
sentence to greet a
visitor, prepared to
finish the sentence and
take up the thread of
thought at the caller’s
departure.

Every reader’s wants
ought to be known to
him instinctively,
whether he is asked for
the right book or not.
For instance, if he
happens to be a college
librarian, and a student
asks him for “Morley,”
he must forget that his
library contains several
books by John and a
number by Henry
Morley, and must know
by some occult power
that the book desired is
Masson’s “De Quincey,”
in the English Men of
Letters series, the whole
series edited by John
Morley.

In a word, a librarian
should have the
learning of a Bacon, the
manner of a
Chesterfield, the
patience of Job, the
divining power of a
wizard, and the temper
of an angel. Besides, he
must not only be born a
librarian, but must
continue to make
himself one as long as
he lives.

Important Things Money Can’t Buy

All the time, we talk of money, how should we get money, how should we save money, how should we spend money. Our mind literally revolves around money. However, the question
that comes up is, can money buy
everything? If that was true, why do we see even the wealthiest of people unhappy? Surely money is important, without money we would not have food to eat, a roof on top of our heads, clothes on our body, education etc.

Money is surely a means to an end but even though money can buy most of the things that we need, it cannot buy some things. Even if you have thousands and millions of dollars, some things are priceless and cannot be bought. Here is a list of things that surely, money cannot buy!

Love

Love is a thing you cannot buy even if you have loads of money. Surely you may be able to buy infatuation as a result of being rich or maybe even lust, but love
can only come from proper
understanding, care, feelings and
spending quality time with each other.

For love, you have to completely
understand your partner and accept him/her in each sphere of your life. Often you might have seen that some people marry others just because they are rich
and they think that the richness will overcome all the differences, but such marriages do not last long. Love cannot be obtained by money, but only by a pure heart.

Time

The most important thing that money cannot buy is time. You might waste your time right now and procrastinate but soon you will realize that the time you have lost is priceless and the clocks
cannot be turned back. When you miss the chance of proposing to a loved one, or telling your kids that you will play with them later, the opportunity that you had that time, is gone. If you do not study for an important exam from the beginning and regret one day before the exam, you cannot turn the clocks and get back the time you had wasted. Thus, no matter
how much money you have, you cannot get back the time you have lost. Utilize every minute of your life so that in the end you don’t regret.

Friends

Money can only buy companions, not friends. The so called friends that you have are because of the money you have. They are people who will agree with everything you say and flatter you just so
that they do not disappoint you. Such friends are selfish and are only concerned with your money. The day your money goes, they will also go. Real friends are the ones which you make over time regardless of the money you
have. Such friends are there for you in every aspect of your life and are not concerned about your money but the value you hold. So if you think you can “buy” friends with the money you have, remember that they will be just
companions who will be there as long as you have money.

Peace of mind

Peace is something that dwells inside all of us, but is mostly hidden. Peace is not something money can buy; it can only
come out of your soul as a result of humane acts, by acting fairly and treating others just the way we want ourselves to be treated. You must have often heard even the richest of the people saying that they have all the luxury in the world but they do not have
peace. They have sleepless nights and all the time they are worrying about their money. The more money you have, the less peace you will have. Surely money
may provide you with some kind of recreation, but it cannot provide mental peace.

Confidence

Confidence is something that you
acquire from experience. You might be having all the money in the world, but you may be lacking the confidence to utilize it. You might get an appointment fixed by your money, but unless you have the confidence to make that appointment successful, your money is useless. Confidence has the ability to make or break your career plans. Unless you have the confidence to try something new and take a risk, you will not succeed at it. If you think you can buy confidence from all the money you have, think again.

Luck

Consider a situation, you are a millionaire and you are going to sign a big contract with a company, you are on the way when suddenly your car crashes and you are severely injured. How can money help in such a situation? What if you invest money in a big company and that company is a fraud and runs away with all your money, what will you do? Sometimes, you cannot escape luck no matter how rich or poor you are. Luck can turn you from a beggar to a millionaire and from a millionaire to a beggar within seconds. You just cannot “buy” luck. All you can do is wish that luck goes your way.

Childhood

Don’t we all remember the happy times when we were kids and had nothing to do except roam around freely.

Manners and class

There are so many poor or middle class people who in spite of having less money, have more class and manners than the rich ones who often are rude
with no manners. Manners and class are things which you learn from your family and the society you are living in.They
reflect your upbringing and family
background. Manners or class cannot be
bought with money, they can only be
learnt.

Why Most Men Don’t Listen to Women

You often hear a wife complain, “My husband never listens to me.” Or a girlfriend agonize to her best mate, “My boyfriend never seems to pay any attention to what I
tell him”. In fact, a woman was ranting about how she’s been talking about wedding arrangements to her fiancé for
months, and yet when she asked him a few questions about some detail she’d told him about earlier, he hadn’t a clue what she was
talking about! It left her wonderin g whether he had heard anything she had told him.The common grouse with women is, “Do
men ever listen?”

Ladies, you may have a point there, but have you ever stopped to think why that may be the case?Some of the common reason s men don’t listen to women are:

1. Women talk too much

Often women have so much to say that the pertinent facts get lost in the intricacies of the story.If a man has to listen to his girl interperse what’s there for dinner, with that cute top she saw at a store, how her sister is expecting a baby and she had a rotten day at work, he’s
pretty unsure by the end of the saga, what exactly hit him.

2 They figure they’ve heard it all before

Sometimes men think there’s nothing new they have to hear and automatically tune off mid-sentence. According to them, it’s just old wine in a new bottle.

3. Women nag

One of the commonest complaints men have is that their partners often nag them. And since they’re used to the general trend of it,
they don’t think there’s anything different about what they’re whining about.

4. They don’t like to be controlled

Men feel that if they listen to a woman in terms of following her instructions, it’s a sign that they are putty in her hands and
that she’ll take undue advantage of the situation. Once he gives in to her demands, he’ll be the equivalent of a puppet on a
string.

5. There are more pressing matters

If a woman is incessantly babbling in the background and a man is doing something far more important – at least to him – like
watching a thrilling football match, the lastthing he wants to do is turn off thetelevision and tune in to his partner.

6. Some men just have a short attention span

Often, men cannot keep their focus on what a woman is saying for too long. They rarely have the patience to give women their listening ear for more than a certain fixed duration, which is normally about ten minutes at the most.

7. The topic is of little interest to them

And then, of course, if she insists on raving about the designer watch her boss’ wife was sporting or the chandelier earrings her
friend’s rich boyfriend surprised her with, that’s really not somethi ng a man is interested in hearing. So, if you want your man to listen to you, a few pointers in the right direction.

¤Keep it short. Don’t meander on about every little insignificant thing, especially if you’ve noticed that he has no use for such frivolo ous details.

¤If you have to go into detail, make it interesting. Hold him rapt with a cute anecdote or a funny story that will grab his attention and hold him captive.

¤Keep pausing at suitable interval s just to ensure you have his attention.

¤Avoid monologues and give him a chance to have his say too. Actively seek his opinion and ask
him for relevant feedback, so that you know he’s not just physically present while his mind is elsewhere.

¤Stop being predictable and nagging him
about the same stuff. If he hasn’t got the
message by now, it’s time to change your
stance or get him to move his butt by trying something new.

¤Don’t even try talking to him when he’s got the television on. Eliminate all distractions, or
wait till he’s done with his television or newspaper, until you start having your say.

¤When you’re talking, try and get him to maintain eye contact with you. That way, if his mind wanders, you’ll know it by the
glazed look in his eyes, unless of course he’s perfected the art of appearing that he’s listening to you with rapt attention, while
he’s actually miles away.

¤And if you want him to listen and follow through on some instructions, don’t order
him round. Ask him nicely, check to see if he’s comprehended what you’ve told him,and then act as if the ultimate decision rests
with him.

Tips to Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse

The following five safety tips from RAINN(Rape,Abuse and Incest National Network)
focus on practical things parents can do to
protect children from sexual abuse.

1. Talk.
Talk often with your child and set a tone of
openness. Talking openly and directly will let
your child know that it’s okay to talk to you
when they have questions. If your child
comes to you with concerns or questions,
make time to listen and talk to them.

2. Teach.
Teach your child key safety principles. For
instance:

¤Teach children the names of their body
parts so that they have the language to ask
questions and express concerns about
those body parts.

¤If your child is uncomfortable or if someone
is touching them, s/he should
tell a trusted adult immediately.

¤Let your children know that if someone is
touching them or talking to
them in ways that make them
uncomfortable that it shouldn’t stay a secret.

3. Empower.

Your child should know that s/he has the
right* *to* *speak up if they are
uncomfortable, or if someone is touching
them. It’s okay to say “no” even to adults
they know and family members.

4. Implement.

Implement Internet safety protocols, and
parental controls through platforms such as
the Google Family Safety Center. Work with
older children to set guidelines for who they
can talk to online, and what information can
be shared. For instance, be cautious when
leaving status or away messages online and
when using the “check-in” feature on
Facebook or Foursquare.

5. Educate.

Educate yourself about the warning signs of
childhood sexual abuse. Know what to look
for, and the best way to respond.

Read more on online.rainn.org

Silence is golden

Meaning

A proverbial saying, often used in
circumstances where it is thought that
saying nothing is preferable to speaking.

Origin

As with many proverbs, the origin of this
phrase is obscured by the mists of time.
There are reports of versions of it dating
back to Ancient Egypt. The first example
of it in English is from the poet Thomas
Carlyle, who translated the phrase from
German in Sartor Resartus, 1831, in
which a character expounds at length on
the virtues of silence:

“Silence is the element in
which great things fashion
themselves together; that at
length they may emerge, full-
formed and majestic, into the
daylight of Life, which they
are thenceforth to rule. Not
William the Silent only, but all
the considerable men I have
known, and the most
undiplomatic and unstrategic
of these, forbore to babble of
what they were creating and
projecting. Nay, in thy own
mean perplexities, do thou
thyself but hold thy tongue
for one day: on the morrow,
how much clearer are thy
purposes and duties; what
wreck and rubbish have
those mute workmen within
thee swept away, when
intrusive noises were shut
out! Speech is too often not,
as the Frenchman defined it,
the art of concealing
Thought; but of quite stifling
and suspending Thought, so
that there is none to conceal.
Speech too is great, but not
the greatest. As the Swiss
Inscription says: Sprecfien ist
silbern, Schweigen ist golden
(Speech is silvern, Silence is
golden); or as I might rather
express it: Speech is of Time,
Silence is of Eternity.”

That fuller version – ‘speech is silver;
silence is golden’, is still sometimes used,
although the shorter form is now more
common.

The same thought is expressed in a 16th
century proverb, now defunct – as many
present-day feminists would prefer it:

“Silence is a woman’s best
garment.”

Silence has in fact long been considered
laudable in religious circles. The 14th
century author Richard Rolle of Hampole,
in The psalter; or psalms of David, 1340:

“Disciplyne of silence is goed.”

Wyclif’s Bible, 1382 also includes the
thought – “Silence is maad in heuen”.
[made in Heaven].

Let bygones be bygones

Origin

‘Let bygones be bygones’ is one of the
small group of phrases the meaning of
which people enquire about more than
they do the origin. On the face of it, the
meaning is obvious and seems to
require no explanation – after all,
bygones can hardly be anything other
than bygones. We don’t have sayings like
‘let greengrocers be greengrocers’, so is
there more to it? As it turns out, there is.

In the 15th century, a bygone was was
simply ‘a thing that has gone by’, that is,
a thing of the past. Shakespeare used it
with that meaning in The Winters Tale,
1611:

This satisfaction, The by-
gone-day proclaym’d, say this
to him.

Meaning

Allow the unpleasant things that have
happened in the past to be forgotten.

As time progressed, ‘bygones’ came to
refer specifically to past events that had
an unpleasant tinge to them; for
example, quarrels or debts. The Scottish
churchman Samuel Rutherford recorded
that usage of the phrase in a letter
during his detention in Aberdeen in
1636. In the letter he regrets the follies
of his youth and acknowledges his debt
to God in showing him the error of his
ways:

“Pray that byegones betwixt
me and my Lord may be
byegones.”

So, there is a little more to the phrase ‘let
bygones be bygones’ than to the more
literal ‘let sleeping dogs lie’ or the old
proverb ‘let all things past, pass’ that was
recorded by John Heywood in his 1562
edition of Proverbs. ‘Let bygones be
bygones’ uses both meanings of the
word ‘bygones’ and means, in extended
form, ‘let the unpleasantness between us
become a thing of the past’.

Love is blind

Origin

This was coined by Shakespeare and was quite a favourite line of his. It appears in several of his plays, includingTwo Gentlemen of Verona,Henry VandThe Merchant Of Venice; for example, this piece fromThe Merchant Of Venice, 1596:

JESSICA: Here, catch this casket; it is worth the pains.
I am glad ’tis night, you do not look on me,
For I am much ashamed of my exchange:
But love is blind and lovers cannot see
The pretty follies that themselves commit;
For if they could, Cupid himself would blush
To see me thus transformed to a boy.

Meaning

It means when you truly love someone it can bo so overwhelming that you don’t realise whats going on in the world around you. also that the person you’re in love with isn’t quite as gorgeous as you believe usually happens after it ends and you’re like “what did i see in him/her anyway”.

Modern-day research supports the view that the blindness of love is not just a figurative matter. A research study in 2004 by University College London found that feelings of love suppressed the activity of the areas of the brain that control critical thought.