A modern-day proverb, bemoaning the difficulty of finding a suitable male partner
This phrase was coined by Eddie Green, as the title of his song A Good Man Is Hard To Find. This was composed in 1918 and first offered for sale as a piano roll in the Fort Wayne Journal-Gazette, on 12th December that year (just in time for Christmas – a bargain at 90 cents):
“A good man is hard to find
You always get the other kind
Just when you think that he is your pal
You look for him and find him fooling ’round some other gal
Then you rave, you even crave
To see him laying in his grave
So, if your man is nice, take my advice and hug him in the morning, kiss him every night,
Give him plenty loving’, treat him right
For a good man nowadays is hard to find, a good man nowadays is hard to find”.
A similar though more general outlook was expressed in the Bible, Micah 7:2 (King James Version):
“The good man is perished out of the earth: and there is none upright among men: they all lie in wait for blood; they hunt every man his brother with a net”.
We don’t know if Eddie Green was an Old Testament scholar, but it seems unlikely that he got the line from Micah.
The best-known version of the song was recorded by Sophie Tucker, who adopted it as a signature tune. She was a little more charitable in her delivery of the lyric and sang the second line as “You may get the other kind”.
Sophie Tucker was born Sophie Kalish; she changed her name and adopted Tucker as a stage name, following a brief marriage to Louis Tuck. It is interesting to speculate whether she was influenced to use Tucker by the style of dress she often wore on stage – see best bib and tucker.
In the good man/good woman stakes, men got in a preemptive strike in the 17th century. Abraham Darcie’s work The originall of idolatress, or the birth of heresies, 1624, includes this opinion:
“There is nothing more hard to find in this world than a good woman, a good Mule, and a good Goat, being three unhappy beasts.”
More recently, and in what must be one of the most convoluted titles ever to grace a book stand, we have Jo Lynne Pool’s 1995 book title – A Good Man Is Hard To Find Unless You Ask God To Be Head Of Your Search Committee.