Why Most Men Don’t Listen to Women

You often hear a wife complain, “My husband never listens to me.” Or a girlfriend agonize to her best mate, “My boyfriend never seems to pay any attention to what I
tell him”. In fact, a woman was ranting about how she’s been talking about wedding arrangements to her fiancé for
months, and yet when she asked him a few questions about some detail she’d told him about earlier, he hadn’t a clue what she was
talking about! It left her wonderin g whether he had heard anything she had told him.The common grouse with women is, “Do
men ever listen?”

Ladies, you may have a point there, but have you ever stopped to think why that may be the case?Some of the common reason s men don’t listen to women are:

1. Women talk too much

Often women have so much to say that the pertinent facts get lost in the intricacies of the story.If a man has to listen to his girl interperse what’s there for dinner, with that cute top she saw at a store, how her sister is expecting a baby and she had a rotten day at work, he’s
pretty unsure by the end of the saga, what exactly hit him.

2 They figure they’ve heard it all before

Sometimes men think there’s nothing new they have to hear and automatically tune off mid-sentence. According to them, it’s just old wine in a new bottle.

3. Women nag

One of the commonest complaints men have is that their partners often nag them. And since they’re used to the general trend of it,
they don’t think there’s anything different about what they’re whining about.

4. They don’t like to be controlled

Men feel that if they listen to a woman in terms of following her instructions, it’s a sign that they are putty in her hands and
that she’ll take undue advantage of the situation. Once he gives in to her demands, he’ll be the equivalent of a puppet on a
string.

5. There are more pressing matters

If a woman is incessantly babbling in the background and a man is doing something far more important – at least to him – like
watching a thrilling football match, the lastthing he wants to do is turn off thetelevision and tune in to his partner.

6. Some men just have a short attention span

Often, men cannot keep their focus on what a woman is saying for too long. They rarely have the patience to give women their listening ear for more than a certain fixed duration, which is normally about ten minutes at the most.

7. The topic is of little interest to them

And then, of course, if she insists on raving about the designer watch her boss’ wife was sporting or the chandelier earrings her
friend’s rich boyfriend surprised her with, that’s really not somethi ng a man is interested in hearing. So, if you want your man to listen to you, a few pointers in the right direction.

¤Keep it short. Don’t meander on about every little insignificant thing, especially if you’ve noticed that he has no use for such frivolo ous details.

¤If you have to go into detail, make it interesting. Hold him rapt with a cute anecdote or a funny story that will grab his attention and hold him captive.

¤Keep pausing at suitable interval s just to ensure you have his attention.

¤Avoid monologues and give him a chance to have his say too. Actively seek his opinion and ask
him for relevant feedback, so that you know he’s not just physically present while his mind is elsewhere.

¤Stop being predictable and nagging him
about the same stuff. If he hasn’t got the
message by now, it’s time to change your
stance or get him to move his butt by trying something new.

¤Don’t even try talking to him when he’s got the television on. Eliminate all distractions, or
wait till he’s done with his television or newspaper, until you start having your say.

¤When you’re talking, try and get him to maintain eye contact with you. That way, if his mind wanders, you’ll know it by the
glazed look in his eyes, unless of course he’s perfected the art of appearing that he’s listening to you with rapt attention, while
he’s actually miles away.

¤And if you want him to listen and follow through on some instructions, don’t order
him round. Ask him nicely, check to see if he’s comprehended what you’ve told him,and then act as if the ultimate decision rests
with him.