We are all different yet we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others. It’s human nature, and while learning from others is an important part of critical decision making, if it is used to reinforce an unrealistic or negative self-image it can be an unhealthy habit to get into.
1 Recognize that comparing yourself to others is a bad habit.
Do you choose who you are or are you the result of social pressure?Society often projects flawless skin, big eyes, full lips, small nose, pure white teeth, smooth and shiny hair, curvy body, and designer clothes for women and they portray them as. They portray tall men with flawless skin,, and designer clothes with lots of women, and they define that that is what makes a man happy. Society is extremely successful in being able to brainwash people into believing they should look a certain way, act a certain way, be a certain someone, when in reality every single one of us is different. What Society does is categorize people and they want you to believe that you have fewer rights to be happy because you do not fit an idealistic lifestyle. That’s why lots of men and women resort to, hide away from society, and grow up thinking that there’s something wrong with them. Comparing yourself to others, especially celebrities, is a fine way to throw your self-esteem down the drain as there will always be those who are ‘better’ than you, and those who are ‘worse’ than you. In the end you will most likely end up wishing you were different with thoughts of worthlessness. It takes you nowhere, wastes a lot of time, and puts you in a psychologically terrible place.
2 Realize that everybody is different, because we are.
Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor RooseveltPeople are born to be different; no two of us are the same. We have different mindsets, we interpret things differently, we have different experiences, we feel different emotions. Even , and be open-minded and aware of what you are doing to others. Something you can do is start thinking how different they are from you.
3 Stop being afraid to be yourself.
Are you an artist?Whatever size, color, religion, gender, race, or sexual orientation, don’t be afraid to be yourself. Nobody but you have the right to dictate what you do, what you think, and what you believe in. There is only one you; nobody has more rights over another person .
4 Forgive and learn.
Set yourself freeLearn to recognize that holding a grudge only ties you down from what you really want out of life. Untie the knot and set yourself free. Better yet, analyze and learn what actually hurt you, and prevent it from happening again in the future.
5 Learn to deal with change and embrace it.
6 Whatever makes you happy, whatever floats your boat.If you feel you need self-improvement and have set yourself an attainable goal, go for it. If you believe that you really need change, do it now. Be sure that you’re doing it because it will make you if it makes you feel better. Learn to. Start helping others. Learn a new skill. Improve your. Learn how to write poetically, work towards a better grade, be nicer to someone,, train yourself to run faster, learn how to wear makeup better, find clothes that will fit your frame, be a better wikiHow contributor, work harder towards that promotion, learn to better,, etc. Do it because you feel good about it, not because you feel bad about yourself. This is your life.
Learn from your experience.
If you don’t have a solid way yet, find a way to let out your anger, frustrations, disappointments and concerns, a way that you can depend on – such as keeping a journal, making a blog, weigh-lifting, making music, talking or writing about it with someone you trust.
Learn to be patient and accepting with others. This can take a lot of training to do, but in the long run it will be beneficial for everyone.
Your are beautiful just the way you are you don’t have to change anything just the thought that you aren’t good enough.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself first. You have needs, too. Take care of yourself. If you have a tendency to bend over backwards for others, read How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and How to Overcome Martyr Syndrome.
It’s better to do it now than think back sometime in the future and ask yourself, “what if?”. It’s better to get hurt then recover from it than having to accept that you lived a very dull life, realizing that you were the one who held you back.
It’s better to be the original you than to be a copy of somebody else