How to Design a Life of Your Choice(Part A)

A lot of us tend to take life for granted, “taking life as it comes” and using that to justify inaction or lethargy. We think that by the time we’re in our 40s or 50s, that everything will have fallen into place by itself. The truth is, for most people, only after 20 or 30 years of working, we discover what we do not want, without a clue as to what we really want in life.

Almost everyone wants a dream life, but few know where to begin, and end up just taking the path which is most hassle-free. This includes following the crowd, where everyone ends up just like everyone else. After few years down the line, doing this causes us to stop and wonder what has happened to our life, suddenly realizing that the path we’ve traversed doesn’t lead us to the desired destination, and it is too late to correct it.

We all know we want something. Words like financial freedom, wealth, and lifestyle are catchwords that everyone is using. But do we know what it actually means? Do we know what it takes to achieve that? Do we know how or where to get it? The difference is, between allowing the life to dictate to us, and designing the life to run as per our dictates. It is essential to design the life you want to live. Is it possible? Yes it is, and here is how to go about it.

1 Don’t take your life for granted. It is a human tendency to allow life to drift, and to expect everything to settle down and be in total harmony by the age of 40-50 years. If you wish to reap good quality fruits at 40, sow quality seeds in your twenties. Your twenties are the formative years of your career, your thirties are the consolidation phase and your forties are the period to take advantage of your previous two decade’s.

2 Be specific about what you want in life and from life. If your goal is to climb Mount Everest, you should know where it is located, the altitude, the oxygen supply, mountaineering techniques, best time, weather, and the equipment. Similarly, you should be specific about what you want from life, where and how you can get it, what are the efforts you need to fulfill the needs, and the time and equipment needed. Don’t sally.

3 Take risks, but don’t leave things to chance. It is a well known fact that without venturing and taking risks, not much can be achieved. It is good to take risks, but before taking risks, make an objective assessment of pros and cons, the gains and losses, the investment, the returns, and the time required. Remember, you cannot get the lost time back, you cannot unwind the clock. Time is the one resource of which there is always

4 Follow people worth following. It is common for people to follow the path of least resistance. It’s a path that almost everyone follows because it’s commonplace to follow the crowd and do what others do. Unfortunately, more often than not, the crowd may not know where it is going, and if so, then everyone ends up like everyone else, wondering what has happened to their life many years down the road!

5 Spend time to chalk out the path of your life. Remember, you only have one life, and it’s no dress rehearsal; it’s only going to happen once. There is no leeway to say “Cut, let’s start it all over again.” Take the time right now to work out a design for your life. If life were a movie, and you were the producer and actor, what role would you want to play and how would the plot unfold? Designing your life is like making a movie.

6 Make concrete plans, but keep them flexible enough to be able to change them according to need and the situation. As the producer of your life, you can change, delete, or add in anything you want in your project. But at least by going through this exercise of designing your life, you are in control of your circumstances, rather than allowing yourself to become a victim of them. So do not hesitate to change your path.


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