1. Stop pursuing her
For some women the thrill is in the chase…or rather, being chased. So stand back and stop being available or even worse, at her beck and call. Play hard-to-get for a change. Keep your distance, but don’t disappear from the scene altogether. Just let her realize that you’re no longer a sucker for her. She might even think you’ve given up any idea of the two of you together and this will give you time to work out your next move.
2. Work on your weaknesses
Don’t let this affect your self-esteem, but did she give you any hints on why she wasn’t interested? Did she tell you that you were tooaggressive and it made her uncomfortable? Or maybe she didn’t like your friends? Or you were out of your depth and acted silly around her? While this may not be a reflection on you as a person, if you can’t see your way to having a relationship with anyone until you’ve explored possibilities with her, try and work on and remedy whatever it is she had a problem with, if you’re really serious about her. But think about it, if she didn’t like your friends, are you willing to sacrifice friendship at the altar of possible love?
3. Get a makeover
Try and get a friend of yours – male or female– to be your personal fashion guru. Someone who has good fashion sense and could give you some grooming tips; soup up your appearance and give yourself a ‘new look’. If you can afford it, some new attire wouldn’t go amiss either, along with a hairstyle that compliments your face and highlights your best features.
4. Cultivate an interest in her interests
Try and find out through whatever source – her friends, colleagues, anybody whom you have access to – what she’s passionate about. It could be a sport, dancing, art – whatever it is, try and get into the act. If it’s dancing, take lessons – and you might just find yourself having a good time while you’reat it! Become a connoisseur of art if that’s what it takes. This is a hidden weapon to pullout when the moment is right.
5. Get into the groove
Start insinuating yourself back into the scene.Keep yourself within range and keep her in your radar but don’t make it too obvious or apparent. And for crying out loud, don’t stalk her and force her to get a restraining order on you! Figure out a way to meet her on neutral ground, without seeming desperate about it.
6. Click with her clique
If you’re a master of subtleties, try and ingratiate yourself into her inner circle of friends. Or casually get to know a cousin she might be close to. Figure out a way of befriending a good friend of hers so that youhave a leg in. However, just to throw her off course, don’t make any effort to go out of your way to seek her company. Don’t ignore her – that would seem too premeditated – butanything more than breezy friendliness would make her suspicious and she would realize that this is a ruse to curry favor with her.
1. Stop pursuing her